It's Marriage Monday again here at Hope at Home. We get to hear from Scott Means today, and that is always a treat! You can read more from Scott at his popular marriage blog, Journey To Surrender.
Intimacy is Choosing Relationship Over RulesIt’s a timely question for the upcoming Advent season. Do you know why God sent Jesus to the earth? Go ahead, think of your answer.
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It’s Not About The Rules
There are those who might also have answered my question about why Jesus came to earth this way, “To get us to live right according to God’s laws.”
Rules, Intimacy and Marriage
I’m sure you’re thinking, “Isn’t this supposed to be a marriage post?”
- A wife expects her husband to help out more around the house
- A couple tries to divide everything 50-50, and both of them are thinking it's 70-30 in their spouse's favor
- A husband expects his wife to want sex as much as he does.
- A wife is critical of her husband's lack of handyman skills, and compares him unfavorably to her father.
- A husband doesn't think his wife keeps things tidy enough for his liking
- A wife thinks her husband should learn to be more romantic
- A husband gets offended every time his wife criticizes his driving
Grace – An Invitation to Intimacy
Grace is the antidote to our rules oriented thinking. It’s true with God. It’s true in your marriage. Grace is actually an invitation to intimacy.
Instead of focusing on rules, choose to serve each other without the expectation of getting something in return. Love unconditionally. Seek intimacy over perfection. Trust in your spouse's heart. These are the ways God pursues intimacy with us. It works in marriage too.